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Why Healing Through Feeling?

Feelings and emotions come through to us initially as sensations in the body. It is through an act of embodied knowing, of first sensing and then understanding, that they become meaningful to us.

They are deeply embedded in and affected by our relationship with the environment, both internal and external, and in our relations with others, and tell us what is right / not right for us in each moment.  Feelings are the expression of our inner world – they are the language of the Soul. By definition, our Soul is sentient because it has feelings.

We are taught from an early age to turn away from, suppress, or deny feelings that we or others judge to not feel ‘good’ - including both emotional and physical pain. As a result, we stop hearing the important messages from our Soul that are designed to guide us away from pain and suffering and toward fulfilment and self-actualisation. If we ignore the message the volume usually goes up and the feelings intensify until the message is heard and we act accordingly. At some point the message intensifies until it becomes what we interpret as pain.

Physically, this can lead to increased dis-ease in the body; and emotionally, to feelings of low self-worth, powerlessness, and depression. 

Paradoxically, despite our instinct to flee from or suppress painful feelings, it is only by turning toward them that we can understand their message and move beyond the pain. This paradox exists everywhere in life if we choose to look - we must turn towards and face with compassion and wisdom what we think we don't want in order to find what we do want. While suppression, denial and turning away from these feelings may sometimes look like positive change, we are often only masking symptoms to make pain go away, without effecting real healing or change. By turning toward, welcoming and listening to our feelings, we can access our Soul's wisdom to help us heal and grow. 

Focusing can help us turn toward the places where we feel strong sensation (physical or emotional pain) with compassion. This allows habitual locked-in patterns of thinking or feeling to open, unfold, and change. From this comes growth and forward movement.